It was the day after Thanksgiving and we were just home from shopping together for my son’s Christmas present. Afterwards, we picked him up from our friend’s place and came home together.
We were lying in bed because we’re both sick and doing much of anything was tiring. It was midday. My son had been talking with Mr. D from separate rooms, bantering as they do. My man and my teenager both have ribault senses of humor so the verbal jousts were entertaining. My son does his best to keep up and he loves the game.
After a few minutes, he came in and crawled on the bed between us to snuggle up to us. His arms were around me getting his snuggles and his back was cozied up to Mr. D. I was so content lying there with my men.
At one point in the conversation I could see that Daddy wanted to say something. “I have something I want to ask you both.” My son kept talking away, oblivious. Daddy started again but got interrupted by the boy chatter again. He then pushed my son’s face down into the covers of the bed playfully. “Hush, I’m talking now.” He said.
My son looked up to him then and quieted down. Daddy spoke directly to him but his eyes held mine. “We both know I love Mom very much and I love you too. I want us to be together for always. We all know it’s just a matter of time before I marry mom.” My son smiled at that, so did I.
“So, Baby Girl, will you marry me?” I looked up into his eyes trying to comprehend the question. We’re sick in bed with the boy, Daddy is a planner by default and this feels so spontaneous. Is he really asking me now?
“Will I marry you? Wait…you’re really asking me?” I asked. I needed clarification. He had recently told me he had a plan to ask me at our friends’ vow renewal in Cancun. (He doesn’t keep secrets long) This was definitely not Cancun.
“Yes, my Love, sick and in bed with the boy, I’m asking you to marry me.”
“Yes, I’ll marry you. I love you so much.” We kissed and I was so very, very happy. Still stunned but completely happy.
Before my son could interject, Daddy said, “And do you approve? I’m asking you too because you’re part of this. Do you want me to marry your Mom?”
“Yes! Definitely! You’ll really be my Step Dad now.” My son was beside himself with glee. He’d been asking me forever when Mr. D would make it happen.
Afterwards, we got up and went to the jewelry store just as we were. Sick, frumpy, no makeup or a nice dress with my hyper son in tow I followed my Master, Daddy, my Husband-to-be in to pick out a ring.
As I sat there waiting for the sales ladies to do their thing and Daddy was on the other side of the store with my boy picking out a ring for the little guy too, my heart swelled so much it felt like it would fly away. How perfect a day, how well he knows me.
I wouldn’t trade this special day for any fancy production. No need for glitzy clothes and expensive dinners. We joined our lives in the place I love the most. Together snuggling in bed.