This will be a very short rant mainly because I don’t usually rant.
I just wanted to say that I love the social graces. Many things about them are lovely. Having doors opened for me, being utterly female in dress to please my man and make him feel utterly male, polite voice volume in luxurious restaurants, all these things are the stuff of social grace and make me swoon. They just bring delight and peace, a sense that all is right in the world
On the flip side, social boundaries can be so limiting. When I wrote about touch, for example. There are so many friends and even generally nice people who aren’t friends that could use a hug or a caress. Why can’t that be okay? But it’s not. You can’t go up to a terminally grumpy person and say, “You seem really tense, let me give you a blowjob, you’ll feel so much better!”
I know, I can’t have ALL the niceties and NONE of the boundaries at the same time. I get it. We really have it good in the current age. Victorian times were too strict, Roman times too dangerous.
Still, it’d be nice. Anyone need a blowjob? Back rub? LOL